Situation guide
How to respond to an urgent ask from a senior leader
It is Thursday at four. A senior leader asks you for something. Your Friday was already planned, and nobody expects a no.
“Can you have this by end of day Friday?”
You have about two seconds before you answer.
What usually fills the two seconds
Most of us react in one of two ways:
- Saying yes before you know what it involves: “Sure, no problem.”
- Pushing back before you know what it involves: “I do not have time for that.”
Each one answers before the ask is understood.
What to say instead
“What does done look like, and what can wait?”
Use your own words. What you ask depends on the ask and on who is asking.
What to do with yourself
Sakshi Bhava
Witnessing Thoughts
If you have a few minutes to respond, sit quietly and watch the thoughts arise: Why me? I cannot say no to this. Where will I find the time? Note each one as thinking and let it pass, without following it or arguing with it.
Pratipaksha Bhavana
Cultivating the Opposite
If you need to respond live, name what is rising in one sentence, silently, such as: I do not have time for this. Then find something that is also true, such as: I can ask what done looks like before I commit.
Also fits, opens with Your Practice
These open when you unlock Your Practice.
Ujjayi
The Victorious Breath
If you have somewhere private and the ask has you wound up: a slow breath through the nose with a soft sound at the back of the throat, which gives an agitated mind something to follow. About two minutes.
Prana Sakshi
Pure Breath Witnessing
If you need to respond live and can feel yourself tightening: watch the breath without changing it, eyes open, so nothing about how you look changes. It works while they are still speaking.
Be ready for the next ask
Meet the Moment: When an Urgent Ask Lands From Above
A quick yes tends to show its cost the next morning.
This scenario starts with what to ask yourself before you respond: What does saying yes to this cost somewhere else? Then a short script to adapt, what to say if they push back, and space to write the words in your own voice.
Afterward, write how it landed and what it cost. The next time an urgent ask lands, you have your own notes to read instead of your memory of it.
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